Why do we hurt the most.. the ones we love the most?
Monday, June 26, 2006
Yasmin's has precisely summarized the feelings I had everytime there's "a drama" or emotional rollercoasters going on.
My answer would be, the ones we love are the ones who is susceptible to our very beings - physically and emotionally. They have awareness towards our feelings, who could detect our emotions just by the look in our eyes, the quiver in our voice, the unspoken language of the body. Who knows the state of our minds, our well beings. These are the people who care to include us in their lives, know our worthiness and our parts in their life. Thus, any slight tumbles, hiccups, sneezes or falls (read:misunderstandings, miscommunications) .. would be noticed and affect them greatly.
In return, they wanted you to acknowledge them - giving care, concerns and respects. In a way, love is not very different from the way a business is being conducted - invest, and gain profit. You give and you take.
They wanted the best for you (and from you) , they have hopes on you. When there's a glitch, it could be catastrophic. IT IS A BIG DEAL. Because you have a role in their life. A big role. A big portion. And you have their heart (well.. close to their heart that is).
Just like a mother scolding her child for misbehaving. She's frustrated despites of nurturing the child with great TLC, the child somehow doesn't manage to behave appropriately. She is hurting as she has hope for the child - being the best mannered child of his/her peers. In the end, all is forgiven, the child learn the lesson, hope is re-instilled. Love? It will only get stronger.
Try to do the same towards other people - they wouldn't give even a second of their lives bothering about it. We would never lose some sleep pondering about what we did.. how or what went wrong. We simply don't care. Simply because, their lives and ours are not connected - by love.
And that's why we ended up hurting those we loved.
Marah kerana sayang.
Cemburu kerana sayang.
My answer would be, the ones we love are the ones who is susceptible to our very beings - physically and emotionally. They have awareness towards our feelings, who could detect our emotions just by the look in our eyes, the quiver in our voice, the unspoken language of the body. Who knows the state of our minds, our well beings. These are the people who care to include us in their lives, know our worthiness and our parts in their life. Thus, any slight tumbles, hiccups, sneezes or falls (read:misunderstandings, miscommunications) .. would be noticed and affect them greatly.
In return, they wanted you to acknowledge them - giving care, concerns and respects. In a way, love is not very different from the way a business is being conducted - invest, and gain profit. You give and you take.
They wanted the best for you (and from you) , they have hopes on you. When there's a glitch, it could be catastrophic. IT IS A BIG DEAL. Because you have a role in their life. A big role. A big portion. And you have their heart (well.. close to their heart that is).
Just like a mother scolding her child for misbehaving. She's frustrated despites of nurturing the child with great TLC, the child somehow doesn't manage to behave appropriately. She is hurting as she has hope for the child - being the best mannered child of his/her peers. In the end, all is forgiven, the child learn the lesson, hope is re-instilled. Love? It will only get stronger.
Try to do the same towards other people - they wouldn't give even a second of their lives bothering about it. We would never lose some sleep pondering about what we did.. how or what went wrong. We simply don't care. Simply because, their lives and ours are not connected - by love.
And that's why we ended up hurting those we loved.
Marah kerana sayang.
Cemburu kerana sayang.
Cik Ana at 1:14 am
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